What advice would you give to someone in the beginning stages of dating a Military guy?

dont get mad when he has to cancel plans last minute b/c of work, or that he wont be able to celebrate your birthday because he'll be in the field or deployed.


dont sleep in the barracks... he can get in some deep trouble if you get caught there.What advice would you give to someone in the beginning stages of dating a Military guy?
You can't get mad at him if he has recalls. You can't get mad at him if he has to go in super early, stay late, or works unruly shifts. You can't get mad at him if he has a TDY, and you absolutely cannot get mad at him because he was picked out of the bucket for a deployment. I'm sure you get the picture.





Even though you may be just a girlfriend, no matter what stage the relationship is in, the one thing that you MUST remember no matter what is that serving his country comes before everything. It sucks, trust me on this one, but above all Uncle Sam has to come first.





Be supportive of his job, and what he has to do. DO NOT go sleeping around if he's not there all the time - that's disrespectful not only to him, but that's giving women who date military men a bad reputation, and it's also brandishing the wives as well.





I will tell you that it wasn't easy growing up as a military child, and it's sure no cake walk on the other side of the bridge as a military spouse. So if your relationship goes further and you both start thinking marriage, seriously honey - your time and relationship has to revolve around the military so you better have one hell of a STRONG independant spirit within you. You'll be needing it at the end of the day.What advice would you give to someone in the beginning stages of dating a Military guy?
Be careful if you don't want to get hurt... and I don't mean by him... I mean, if it gets serious, think about the long term. You'd better have one hell of a sense of independence, and be able to be faithful regardless of strenuous circumstances.





Oh.. and as for the barracks thing... yeah, definitely not a good idea to get caught there when you shouldn't be there. I went across the country to marry my husband and we didn't plan as well as we should have... ended up with me hiding in the barracks for a little while as we were waiting for the BAH and whatnot to kick in so we could go get a place... got caught dressed in nothing but a blanket by hubby's 1st sgt when they had a surprise inspection during PT.
dont trip!!! military life is very busy with crazy work hours!!! dont get mad if you dont get to spend the time that you want with him or last minute he has duty or has to cancel plans to go to the field.... you kinda have to plan your relationship AROUND the military! i know that sucks but thats the way it is!!!!! Dont worry if you really like each other you will find a way to talk or hang out!
He's a guy just like any other. He just has a very inflexible job. Thats about it.
If he has a loser job choice for the military that can't transfer to the civilian world and enlisted dump him.
be realistic military people they are on the go all the time so be prepared other that its fun and you never know where will take you.
be flexible. No pun intended.